Why Doesn’t He Call?

Why Doesn’t He Call?

The date is finally over and it seemed like things were perfect. Dinner… amazing. Conversation… wonderful. And the look in each other’s eyes… priceless. So what happens after days or sometimes weeks go by and you haven’t received a call?

The date is finally over and it seemed like things were perfect.  Dinner… amazing.  Conversation… wonderful. And the look in each other’s eyes… priceless.  So what happens after days or sometimes weeks go by and you haven’t received a call?  It could mean the obvious; he’s just not that into you.  Or it could mean several things have occurred and now the interest has slowly faded away.  

After You Exchange Numbers

Let’s say you meet someone interesting at a lounge, or a party.  The conversation seemed to go pretty well.  At the end of that conversation, he asks you for your number, and you happily agree to give it to him.  Now, in your mind, you contemplate and wait for that wonderful phone call or text message that never occurs.   Why?  Well, he may be entertaining several other options at the time and you just got lost in the shuffle.  Also, it could be solely based on the conversation you had.  You may have indicated how serious you are about a relationship and all he wants to do is have a sexual rendezvous.

After You Have Sex

“Oh, shit!”  This is usually the thought after I’ve had sex with someone without really getting to know who she was.  I play it cool until she leaves, but afterwards I’m glad she’s gone.  The sex seemed great, but will I call her later?  Possibly not.  But why?  Well, if a guy is not serious about you, or the potential relationship, he’s not going to make you a priority; therefore, he won’t be calling you, unless it’s late at night… and all we know what that means.  Or, it could be that maybe he didn’t perform his best that night. (We all can’t bat a thousand – Lol) He may think that YOU think his performance was uninspiring, and he’s embarrassed.  It’s easier to just move on rather than re-live that memory with you.

After The First Date

The movie was great and dinner was even better, but he still hasn’t called.  Chances are he’s not that in to you.  I believe we’ve all seen that movie, and it’s pretty accurate, from a guy’s perspective.  If a guy is interested in you, especially if you haven’t had sex with him yet, he WILL make the effort to call you.  At the least, he will send a text checking up on you… or to say he was thinking about you.  One of the things I have realized over the years of dating is that you can only put up a front or a representation for so long.  Most guys with deceptive intentions quickly realize after the first date how difficult it would be to maintain that performance, especially if you have your priorities together and he doesn’t.

Of course there are always variables when it comes to conditions of human behavior.  I’ve also been on the end of “Why hasn’t she called me back?  Was it something I said or did?” And the truth is, it could have been a number of things.  It could be a blessing in disguise that he didn’t call you back.  You could have saved yourself a shitload of heartache and pain. So… if I were you, I wouldn’t stress it.

If he doesn’t call, it’s his lost.   He just literally made room for the right person to come into your life.  Chalk it up as a great learning experience and move on.  Happy Dating☺

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