Threesomes Are Becoming Less Taboo. Here’s What You Should Consider before You Put It on Your Bucket List

Threesomes Are Becoming Less Taboo. Here’s What You Should Consider before You Put It on Your Bucket List

Threesomes are more common than you think. You’veprobably heard someone talking about their experience because people who havehad threesomes love to brag about it. And most likely because nowadays it has becomeone of the things that you must do with your partner (or without, if you are not dating anyone).

Threesomes are more common than you think. You’veprobably heard someone talking about their experience because people who havehad threesomes love to brag about it. And most likely because nowadays it has becomeone of the things that you must do with your partner (or without, if you are not dating anyone). So where can your fantasy lead? What expectations should you have about it?

Choosing the right threesome partner is complicated and complex. You probably don’t want your BFF to be a part of it – unless you want the post-threesomevisuals tohaunt you for a while. If you mess it up, you could ruin your relationship and your life forever. It’s like a party – one wrong guest, whose vibe doesn’t go along with yours and others at the party, and your whole dynamic is off.

Cosmopolitan’s relationship expert explains that “threesomes are an emotional minefield that even the most self-assured couples struggle to navigate…Watching your lover writhing naked with someone else is bound to hurt.” The same goes for participating in a threesome as the third-party. Entering into a bed that is already so intimate for two people can be a difficult role to take on. This could also make future dinner parties and get-togethers extremely uncomfortable for years to come.

There are three typesof threesomes – three people who are not involved with each other. Most likely, it is a spontaneous one: you were all hanging out at the same party, and at some point ended up under the same sheets. The second one is when a couple spontaneously decidesto have athreesome tonight after they finish their dinner. Finally, the most common one: a couple has been looking for a third wheel at bars or on dating sites.Whichever one you experience, before you cross it off your bucket list, you should consider certain things.

Get on the same page.

The key to any great sex is communication, both before and during sex. With people who are new to the threesome format, you may want to set up boundaries and expectations and make sure that all parties are comfortable with the sex that is about to happen. This is especially important when having sex with friends or couples, because things can get mighty weird after the sex is over.

Go with the flow.

Communication is great. But sometimes, you also just have to shut up and let the other bodies in the room do the communicating. It’s sex, not a moon landing. So, instead of discussing it all over again, just pay attention to how the folks around you respond to your sexing and to the non-verbal cues that create real intimacy.

Be considerate of all parties.

Just because you’re engaging in a “naughty” act doesn’t mean that all good-girl habits go straight out the door. Especially if you’re following the previous do’sand don’ts, you never want to alienate your friend (if, for example, you seem to connect more with your male participant). Everyone should take turns or engage in activities simultaneously.

Have fun!

This is, by far, the most important rule. You should be most worried about having sexy, consensual, affirming fun with people you won’t completely regret doing it with later. The best thing you can do is to check-in with yourself, make sure that you feel good, and that this is what you want. Wrap up your sexy parts, not your feelings. There’s no crime in that.

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