How Rory Gilmore Is A Role Model For Graduating Women

How Rory Gilmore Is A Role Model For Graduating Women

Graduating from college is a momentous step in anyone’s life. It’s the closing of one chapter and beginning of another. And like finishing a chapter of a book and turning the next page, you can be filled with a multitude of emotions between excitement, terror, confusion, relief, and many more.

Graduating from college is a momentous step in anyone’s life. It’s the closing of one chapter and beginning of another. And like finishing a chapter of a book and turning the next page, you can be filled with a multitude of emotions between excitement, terror, confusion, relief, and many more.

It’s a troubling time where you’ve completed a period of your life and now it’s time to start the next phase, whether that’s your career, your marriage, your traveling adventures, or whatever you decide you want it to be. Because that’s what this phase is about, you and your decisions.

The anxiety that will arise from this recent step can be overwhelming; however, it’s possible to overcome. Look at Rory Gilmore for example, from the well-loved television show Gilmore Girls. If you’re not familiar with the show, Rory grew up with her strong-willed independent mother who raised her to believe she could do anything if she worked hard for it. From a very young age, Rory knew she wanted to go to an Ivy League school and become a reporter, like her idol Christiane Amanpour. Following her life in the series, she is on the right path to her dreams. She attends Yale and becomes Editor and Chief of the Yale Daily News. In the last season, it’s her final semester at Yale and it seems like Rory has everything going for her. She has a boyfriend who loves her dearly and all the experience she needs to become a reporter at any news outlet she applies to. However, when it all comes down to it, Rory faces the same mix of emotions as any other college student soon to graduate. The way she handles it, though, is something to look at as an example for college graduates everywhere.

First off, Rory begins to feel the looming pressure of the real world well into the season when she overhears from the people around her that they all have plans for after graduation. She begins to feel unprepared and even has a breakdown in front of her friends who console her and let her know she’s not alone. This is a moment most soon-to-be graduates face, where the reality that college is almost over and the real world looms around the corner hits them. Rory handles it well by first trying to distract herself with friends and fun and then reaching out to her friends. She shows that there’s nothing wrong with admitting that the future and real world freaks her out.

Then later along, Rory does what every soon-to-be graduate does and seeks a job she would love. She applies and applies and entertains interviews for The New York Times and smaller publications where she’ll do what she does best, write. The first life-altering decision she makes is deciding between a job offer with a small publishing newspaper and a fellowship with The New York Times she has yet to hear about. With a deadline looming over her head, she makes a pros and cons list to help with her decision. In the end, she decides to decline the offer and wait to hear from The New York Times because that’s her ultimate dream and she doesn’t want to limit herself.  She’s young and her dreams are still in sight and attainable, so why settle so soon in her life.

Next, Rory faces the significant-other decision. She’s been in her long-term relationship with boyfriend Logan who seems like a perfect match to her intellect and witty banter. They’ve withstood a long distance relationship between continents; they’ve overcome battles of miscommunication and the dismissal of family on both parts. So what’s the next step of their relationship when Rory is graduating and Logan has job offers on the west coast? Logan believes it to be marriage, so he pops the question in front of her entire family! Rory is thrown off and in Gilmore fashion consults her mother and asks for time to think. In the end, Rory chooses herself and her career rather than her relationship. Well, actually, she chooses both and suggests to Logan that they do long distance until she can find something more stable for her future career rather than making a permanent decision this early in her life. Logan declines and that triggers the end of their relationship. Sure Rory could have said yes and moved to the West Coast and grown an avocado tree and settled down with her boyfriend and form a life with him. However, Rory is not one to limit herself. She chooses the limitless options of her unknown future rather than settling into a life where she’ll be taken care of. This is a scary decision but taking risks is also more exciting if they’re risks that lead you to the career and life you want rather than the life that seems to be laid out in front of you.

Following her break-up with her long-time boyfriend and rejection of her first choice job option, Rory is left graduating and moving back home with her mom. Rather than wallowing in self-pity because she’s jobless and just ended a very significant relationship in her life, she keeps moving. She plans a distracting trip to ride every rollercoaster in America with her mother and also applies for every news-writing outlet out there, with no stone unturned. This inevitably leads her to a job, showing that her hard work and the risks she took paid off.

Yes, Rory Gilmore is a fictional character; however, the events of her life are relatable in many ways. Like most graduates, she faces the impending moment where she enters the real world, prepared or not. This is the time in a graduate’s life where the decisions they make will begin to shape their future. Rory Gilmore is an example of a graduate who faces all of theses battles and handles it like a champ. She does what is best for her and takes the risks she sees as possibilities that will shape her future the way she wants to design it.

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