Nowadays, we tend to look for a quick solution in our everyday lives, especially when it comes to dating, hence the surge of pursuing online methods to find that special someone. This, of course, doesn’t get us to the core of the people we choose to date
Nowadays, we tend to look for a quick solution in our everyday lives, especially when it comes to dating, hence the surge of pursuing online methods to find that special someone. This, of course, doesn’t get us to the core of the people we choose to date. So how does one get there? How does one get to know about the person they’re about to date? May I suggest dating in daylight? Here is the concept:
After you meet someone and exchange numbers or exchange information, suggest the first couple of dates be during daylight hours. Since we are all working stiffs, this will probably place the date on the weekend. From there, select a desired location that will require basic human interaction, but one that would invite daylight to the conversation. So what are the benefits of dating someone in the daylight? I’m glad you asked.
The color temperature of daylight registers around 5,500 degrees Kelvin. Now that you have that useless piece of information, here is how you can benefit from it. In this kind of light, your makeup is going to be evenly illuminated. Every detail is going to be beautifully revealed. As a guy, I’ll admit to not always appreciating the artistry that goes along with a beat up face (no pun intended). And when it’s done flawlessly, we can’t help but keep our attention glued to the wonderful canvas it’s painted on.
Another benefit is that you can see us, too. Daylight does something to reality; it literally brings into focus. I know that’s a no-brainer, but have you seen someone in a low light situation and then see them again under the color temperature of 5,500 Kelvin? (I guess it wasn’t useless.) It can make you reconsider swiping right.
Dating in daylight also gives you a really good bailout plan. Say you meet a guy after you’ve seen all his pictures on the ‘Gram or on Tinder, and then you actually see him in person. That’s the moment you realize that some kind of Photoshop had to have been there to enhance those photos you saw. Bless his heart….
But the most important thing, at least for me, would be to use this opportunity to get to know the person. My mother used to always say, “What’s done in the dark will always come to the light.” Or was that Madea? Eh… anyway, there’s some wisdom in it. Use the daylight as a guide to really vet someone’s “representative” before you invest any more time. Set up a date at a coffee shop, or a bookstore, or go for breakfast, or go on a walk in a park in the warmer months, or go to brunch… whatever. There is no pressure of a Netflix and Chill expectation. The main purpose for doing this is to get through the BS up front. It’s not %100 foolproof, but guys who want more than a smash and dash should be more than accepting of a few dates in the daylight.
Once you feel comfortable enough about this guy, you can easily go to a low light environment. At this point, you should know what he looks like; there shouldn’t be any surprises in the looks department. Lol
All in all, this is just something you could add in your dating arsenal. Again, it’s not foolproof, but it helps. If you do this for the first couple of dates, it should help you weed through some of the “distractions” out there. Some. Happy Dating ☺
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