Dating 101

Dating 101

Dating can be amazing if it’s done right. Here’s a list of the most important Do’s and Don’ts while exploring the dating world.

Dating can be amazing if it’s done right. Here’s a list of the most important Do’s and Don’ts while exploring the dating world.

DO: Be active with your love life. Don’t be one of those people who are just sitting there and waiting for a relationship to happen. You’ve got to work for it, and search for it. Of course, there should be balance, and you shouldn’t be too OCD about finding your perfect match. Just go out there, meet people, go on the dates and most importantly, have a good time. Some dates can really suck, others can be neutral, and some can be very exciting. But what matters is that throughout the process you realize more what you want and what you don’t. Plus, you get a chance to meet a lot of new people, expand your circle, and increase the odds of meeting the right one.

DO: Go beyond the bar scene. Yes, there’s a possibility that you may find the right person while sipping a cocktail at your favorite bar or lounge, but don’t just focus on one environment. You never know where you are going to meet the next person you are going to date, so if you’re only looking in one spot – you’re missing out. Keep your eyes open and explore.

DON’T take the dating game too seriously. Dating is tough, and finding a good match can be hard. If you live in NYC or any other big city, then it’s even harder to find the right person for you. Don’t take it personally if he never called or texted you after your first date. Again, just enjoy the process and move on. There are a lot of fish in the sea.

DON’T be too available. Simply because it’s not interesting and unattractive. I know you want to be with him all the time, especially in the beginning, but it will seem too easy for him, and he may lose interest in you. So spend time by yourself, and (!) don’t forget your friends. Make him miss you and want you.

DO: Go easy on the alcohol. There’s nothing worse than getting drunk on the first date. You might think that a couple of drinks will make you feel more relaxed and put you in a better mood, but… it won’t, it’s a trap! If a person that you are meeting with doesn’t make you feel comfortable or doesn’t put you in a good mood, then you should continue looking for someone who will.

DON’T be too obsessed with a “perfect guy” checklist. It’s about time to get your list out of your head. Just face it, you’re never going to meet your perfect list. You may meet him, but I’m telling you, there’s a 99.9% chance that your “perfect guy” is not really interested in women and is looking for a man too…. There are so many things that you can get attracted to, and you can end up attracted to someone who’s so different from your type.  

DO: BE YOURSELF. As cheesy and corny as it may sound, just be the the best version of yourself. Don’t try to lower yourself or reshape your personality for someone else. There’s nothing worse than trying to be someone else. It’s not about getting someone to think you’re good enough for them. It’s about you finding someone who you enjoy spending time with. It’s about you finding the perfect puzzle piece.

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